If you are only spending time with your B.O.B when your real live boyfriend isn’t around then you are both missing out! There are studies that show that not only do most women need sex toys during foreplay to get their happy ending but they also show that sex toys can help with a man’s orgasm as well. Here are some tips on how to bring your B.O.B. and your BF together.
1. How to bring up using a sex toy in bed with your boyfriend without making him feel inadequate:
Since sex toys appear everywhere from TV shows like House of Lies to your local CVS you can use that to your advantage. Bring it up like something you saw one TV. If you bring it up like something you saw and wanted to try out, its simply curiosity and not a replacement of him or judgment of his skills.
2. Hook and line now for the sinker: Ok so you got him to say yes, now what? Your best bet is to suggest a sex shop to go to together. Make a sexy day trip of it. If he isn’t comfortable going to a sex shop then you could always go online and shop like that. 3. A little for me a little for you? Sometimes guys can be uncomfortable with you using a sex toy on them. That is something you want to discuss prior to getting down to business that way in the throws of passion you don’t cross a line you didn’t know was there. But remember if you are using condoms with your significant other than if kind of defeats the purpose if you then use sex toys on each other with no protection on the sex toy. I know it sounds weird but you can apply condoms to sex toys as well. 4. My vibrator feels more normal to me than my boyfriend: There haven’t been any studies as of yet saying that you will become desensitized to the real thing by using your vibrator or sex toy too often. Women do become less sensitive the older they get but less sensitivity isn’t linked to poorer sex over time. Don’t you worry your little heart!Did you know that 1/3 of the women in this world own a vibrator? I know it’s a crazy thought especially since when the vibrator was originally invented, its purpose was to cure women of “hysteria” a term that at the time, was used to describe what we now call sexual frustration. Doctors grew weary of manually relieving women of this ailment so they designed a machine that vibrated and was applied to the clitoris in or to induce orgasm.
Ironically enough a woman’s pleasure was the furthest thing from the minds of the men who created the vibrator. Today women have replaced men’s laziness, the laziness that led to the invention in the first place, with the very same invention, the vibrator.
Up until the 20th century men the world over believed that women did not experience physical sexual pleasure and were simply content to be the proverbial “hole in the wall” that mean treated them like. Women had only 2 purposes of which the second was to bear children and in the eyes of men didn’t experience the same pleasures. This as obviously since been proven very wrong but you can see why men operating under that impression left women suffering from this “hysteria.” I would go crazy too if the man I was having sex with never bothered to make sure I had an orgasm!
In the late 19th century doctors were making a killing in the “orgasm” game or what they used to call “paroxysm” because according to them at the time women didn’t experience sexual gratification the way men did. At the time doctors didn’t exactly have the stellar reputation they do today. Their methods tended to kill more people than they helped, so when they developed the cure for hysteria women were more than happy to come back over and over for treatment.
Unfortunately for the doctors their monopoly on the vibrator was short-lived. Thanks to advertising in women’s magazines, the vibrator soon made its way into homes disguised as the “personal massager.” Even today they are still sometimes described as personal massagers but for the most part it is out in the open. I mean it had to be after the women’s movement and feminism took hold in our country. Of course it took women to get things going!
Today there are thousands of different vibrators. They are plug in, portable bullets, egg shaped, long and pink, battery powered, and water proof. 1/3 of women own a vibrator and to think we owe it all to some lazy doctors who thought we didn’t get off the way they did.
-SweetDee