FOXSexpert: The Health Benefits of Masturbation | Fox News

Perhaps the joke’s on us. While people love to make wisecracks about it, few will actually admit to doing “it.” Yet, according to Martha Cornog, of "The Big Book of Masturbation", self-pleasuring is surely the second most common human sex act. And, despite its torrid history, that’s proving to be a good thing. Turns out this once taboo behavior has plenty of health benefits and can do wonders for your sex life. While the shackles of masturbation have been loosening around our loins, it is only recently that society has started to let go of its guilt around solo sex. This is in part thanks to sex researchers affirming that most of us do it, as well as the embracing of it by television sitcoms. Who can forget the bet made by Jerry, Elaine, George and Kramer as to who could remain the “master of their domain” the longest? Even if you’re not a conformist, there’s something about safety in numbers when it comes to this topic. (And if it makes you feel even better, know that masturbation is common among other animals, like dogs, cats, horses, bulls, rats, hamsters, deer, and whales, too). This more relaxed attitude is also due to the medical community challenging its own original claims that masturbation was a serious medical-ethical problem with dire results. According to works like Onania, circa 1712, male masturbation was said to lead to disease or disorder with the loss of semen. Likewise, in losing vaginal fluid, a female who took matters into her own hands was supposedly at risk for hysteria, jaundice, epileptic fits, and other negative health conditions. Of equal concern, self-pleasuring was thought to send her down the road to sodomy as well. Anybody with “solo sexploration” experience can tell you that, contrary to popular myths, masturbation does not result in any of the aforementioned, nor does it lead to acne, warts, hair on the palm, insanity, blindness... What many may not know, however, is that stimulating yourself can ultimately boost your health in many ways. Health Benefits for Men Research summarized in a 2007 article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy found that masturbation may help men by: — Improving his immune system’s functioning. — Building his resistance to prostate gland infection. — Making for a healthier prostate. Australian researchers have reported that frequent masturbation may lower a man’s risk of developing prostate cancer. A survey of men found the more frequently a man masturbates between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to get prostate cancer. In fact, those who masturbated more than five times a week were one-third less likely to develop prostate cancer. Health Benefits for Females When it comes to a woman’s health, self-pleasuring serves her well by: — Building her resistance to yeast infections. — Combating pre-menstrual tension and other physical conditions associated with their menstrual cycles, like cramps. — Relieving painful menstruation by increasing blood flow to the pelvic region. This will also reduce pelvic cramping and related backaches. — Relieving chronic back pain and increasing her threshold for pain. Health Benefits for Both Sexes Masturbation rewards both men and women because it’s: — The safest kind of sex, keeping you free of sexually transmitted infections. — A great form of stress relief. — A mood booster in releasing endorphins. — A natural sleep sedative. — A mechanism for building stronger pelvic floor muscles, which can lead to better sex. — A natural energetic pick-me-up. As Sigmund Freud once remarked at the Vienna Psycho-Analytical Society, “the subject of masturbation is quite inexhaustible.” While he wasn’t getting at the benefits (Freud saw self-pleasuring as harmful to the genitals and one’s psychosexual and moral development), the same can be said in how it can improve one’s sexual relationship. For couples who masturbate on occasion or regularly, sex with yourself can: — Be empowering, especially by helping you to feel better about your body, genitals and sexual response. — Deliver some of your most intense orgasms ever, which you’ll now know how to recreate with that special someone! — Increase your sexual awareness, giving you the opportunity to discover what turns you on – the sensations and movements that work best to give you the greatest of sexual gratification. — Have the potential to enhance your sex life in general, boosting your sexual confidence and turning you into a better lover. — Get you or your partner off the hook if neither is available or not in the mood. via FOXSexpert: The Health Benefits of Masturbation | Fox News.

I used to call my boyfriend's Penis Godzilla....

Some enterprising Scottish researchers decided to study the sexual appetites of 323 women and discovered, interestingly enough, that size does matter. Women who achieved orgasm did so with more ease if their partner had a penis length of over 5.8 inches. The longer the ding-a-ling, the more stimulation the vagina and the cervix get, the more fun everyone's having. So all that so-called internal anxiety about dick size? Ha ha, it's real. Size matters. Big time. Guess we better cool it with our "size matters" jokes, huh? I mean, since it's a real thing, maybe we shouldn't poke fun at it. Psych! It's a mostly, if not universally, accepted standard that bigger boobs are better than small boobs, so welcome to the club, dudes! Now you, too, can feel like less of a person because of the size of your sex organ. Here, in our club, behind door number one, we have some literature on how to get over your inferiority complex. Then there, behind door number two, we've got videos about how to deal with your genetic shortcomings. And way over yonder, behind door number three, we've got a plastic surgeon waiting to capitalize on your need to have something enlarged. The good news for men, though, is that if you're Italian, Swedish, Greek, or German, you don't really have anything to worry about. Each of those countries has an average penis size of over 5.8 inches. But if you're from the US, UK, Spain, France, or Russia ... your average penis size is under 5.8 (the US is 5.1 inches!), so ... yeah. There's that. Better go ahead and pick your door. Penis Size Really, Really, Truly Matters -- Really | The Stir.

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Enjoy your breasts

    Your boobs are wily little seductresses. They poke proactively out of bikini tops, peek over lacy push-up bras, and flaunt their fabulousness naked in bed—turning any red-blooded heterosexual male into a panting pile of mush. But what most women don't realize is that their boobs can give them heaps of satisfaction too. "The majority of research is geared toward keeping breasts healthy, and not nearly enough is known about how women can enjoy their breasts during sex," says Debby Herbenick, Ph. D., a sexual-health educator at the Kinsey Institute at Indiana University. The truth is, your boobs play an important role in pleasing both of you. These six moves will help you double your pleasure and ensure they're not left out of the fun. Cuddle up When your partner caresses your breasts, your brain releases a warm and fuzzy chemical into your bloodstream called oxytocin, says Beverly Whipple, Ph. D., professor emerita at Rutgers University. This powerful love hormone, also triggered by hugging and orgasm, fosters a strong bonding feeling between you and your partner. To maximize its effect, while you're on top, have your guy sit up and wrap your arms around his neck, pressing your breasts into his chest. Or, while in missionary, pull him toward you until your nipples graze his chest and focus on synchronizing your breathing. This touching and heaving at the same time will boost intimacy, and—because arousal increases blood flow—your breasts will feel warm, making your embrace feel even cozier. Tease them The same way a guy can become erect just like that, a woman's breasts can stand at attention sans direct contact. In fact, the mere suggestion of sexual touch can fire off pleasurable sensations in your breasts. To make your hills come alive without actually touching them, "have your guy rest his fingertips lightly on your sternum (the middle of your chest), then move them toward either breast, drawing light circles over the entire area," says Jaiya, co-author of Red Hot Touch. His barely there caress will stimulate the microscopic hairs on your boobs and the fine-touch nerves under the skin's surface, creating bliss-inducing shivers. Relish new sensations Your man may be good with his hands, but encourage him to touch your chest with something less expected once in a while. The feel of soft jersey sheets, cool body lotion, or even silky fabric can make sex more thrilling. "Introducing various types of sensation adds a new feel to ordinary touch," says Ian Kerner, Ph. D., author of She Comes First. During sex, have him rub your breasts with a pair of silk underwear, tickle your nipples with a feather, or smooth hand cream all over your girls. And don't overlook the benefits his body can bring. Press your boobs into his smooth back, or dangle them over his face during girl on top, tracing them over his nose, cheekbones, and lips—or just glide his penis across your chest.   Focus above the areola Those nipples, always hogging the spotlight. But they're actually not the most sensitive region of the chest. The flesh directly above the areola (the colored skin surrounding the nipple) is the real star of the show. "We think of nipples as primary erogenous zones—which they are, to a degree—but that's partially because they're so visible," Jaiya says. "However, studies have shown that women feel more pleasurable sensations above them." Have your guy rub the 10 o'clock to two o'clock zones with an ice cube, then blow hot air on the wet parts for head-to-toe chills. Or, while in missionary, he can use the tip of his tongue to lick circles around the area, slowly moving down to your nipple and areola (the second most sensitive zone on your breast). The pressure from his tongue will activate a tiny muscle just beneath the surface that flips on your headlights so he can then flick them ever so gently with his tongue. Get wet Mix things up by hopping in the shower with your guy and turning the faucet to hot (but not scorching). The heat brings blood to the skin's surface and elevates body temperature, both of which make your skin more sensitive to the touch, says Sandor Gardos, Ph. D., founder of mypleasure.com, an online sex-toy store. Then have your guy soap up your breasts. The feeling of his hands slipping and sliding all over your boobs combined with the hot water will get both your libidos racing. Also consider experimenting with the settings on your shower head—the pulsate function will provide direct, massaging pressure, while a lighter one will feel more soothing. Not in the mood for a shower? Having your guy massage your breasts with a steamy wet towel will reap similar benefits. Maximize your size Your breasts may be his go-to spot on your bod, but how often do you luxuriate in the sensuality of your own curves? Never? Well, you're missing out. "Some women don't take the opportunity to relish their breasts during sex (or solo sex), especially if they're self-conscious about their cup size," Kerner says. But guess what—all women, regardless of bra size, have the same amount of nerve endings and feel an equal amount of pleasure--and experts say boobs can grow up to 25 percent bigger when aroused. The trick is to tailor the type of touch to your size. In general, women with larger breasts can handle a slightly firmer grip because they have more fatty tissue. So when you're on top, cup your boobs, lift them slightly, and squeeze. Feeling their full weight can be a huge turn-on. If you have a smaller set, push your breasts together with the sides of your arms to create eye-popping cleavage. Or, while you're in the spoon position, reach up and feel them jiggle with every thrust. Read more: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/sex-tips-2  

How To Play With His Balls During Sex

I’m a balls girl. I’ve just always felt comfortable hanging out in the ball region. Even when I first started hooking up below-the-belt with guys and all of my friends only did the absolute basics (ie, just focusing on the shaft), I ventured into ball town. I’m not exactly sure why, but it seemed to come naturally to me. (The instinct, that is. Not the balls.) I take full responsibility for converting my three sophomore year roommates into ballers back in college. Until I talked to them about the topic, they had never gone near the guys. You’re welcome, all future hook-ups of those girls! Anyway, my cojones expertise really shined for today’s positions, the Randy Recliner. Unfortunately, D. and I didn’t have access to a poolside recliner (or the desire to get arrested for public indecency at a public New York City pool), but we did come up with a good substitute. We used a lounge chair with the ottoman pushed against it. We started in position but without penetration while D. stimulated me from behind. Then once I was ready, I lifted my hips and he pushed into me. The whole thrusting thing was kinda weird…I sort of just alternated sliding back and forth and bouncing up and down — very, very carefully. And here’s where the ball play comes in… Just like the Kama Sutra claims, it’s a great position for fondling the boys. So while he used his hands to work on me (gotta love manual stimulation during sex!), I used mine to work on him. I gently pulled them away from his body and traced them with a finger tip. (Sometimes I carefully scratch them with my nails or massage them too.) And the result was — I hate to use cheesy similes, but in this case I think it’s necessary — as explosive as fireworks. Seriously, so, so good. I really think the ball TLC had something to do with D.’s enjoyment. His orgasm just seemed so much more intense than usual. I actually watched D.’s toes curl in pleasure. He also kicked his feet and bounced his knees! Totally different view of an orgasm seeing the lower half of a guy’s body! Definitely try it sometime. (And bonus, I didn’t have to feel at all self-conscious about my O-face. I know, I know — I shouldn’t anyway. But I could really let loose without worrying that I looked like I was trying to open a can or something.) Does your guy have any slightly strange movements or faces he makes when he comes? Do you? Are you into playing with a guy’s balls? Any techniques to share? Read more: How To Play With His Balls During Sex - Cosmopolitan

How (& How NOT) to Fondle His Balls -- the Art of Testicle Play - Los Angeles Sex, LA After Dark

  Ladies, if men's balls baffle you, you're not alone. I have no idea what to do with them, and I'm considered an expert in sex. They are so complex and mysterious to me, probably in the same way a female's breasts are to the men reading; no two sets respond, feel or look the same. The male scrotum comes in so many different shapes and sizes -- even on the same guy! Each duo has its own sensitivity preference and pain threshold, so the trick for us chicks is to learn how to handle them without hurting them Approach is everything. Men (should) know not to "drill for oil" when they first go down on a girl. Similarly, when women initially grab ahold of the cojones, we shouldn't yank, pull or squeeze them hard. After practicing on 500-plus pairs, I've learned to start out with barely a tickle and gauge my hand pressure and gestures by my man's response. If the twins start scrunching up, then I know I'm doing a good job. What confuses me, however, is how far do I go and when do I stop? In my never-ending quest for sexual knowledge I decided to turn to my 5,000 friends onFacebook and asked the dudes specifically what they like having done to their sacks, and signs to look for when we females are doing it wrong. I loved the candid and sexy answers that guys posted on my wall, and just like balls and breasts, no two responses were alike. Here's a sampling of what I received:

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A show of hands, please?

Scott: "Before I give an answer... are you grading these?" Kuillian: "I like it complimented. Women need to point out just how extraordinary it is. It's like a designer purse... only smaller and hairier." Alan: "You need to use your tongue on it and get it wet also. Then sort of make a cup out of your hand with the balls resting in your palm and gently, and I mean GENTLY 'milk' the sack while your mouth and other hand are on the cock. You'll know you're doing it right when you get an amazing 'protein facial!!!'" Robert: "Caution: Contents extremely fragile!" JP: "When they suck, don't suck." Magnus: "Well... I can't believe I'm commenting on this! My sack personally doesn't need any special attention. I like the clean up effort Sammy often comments on with the towel, other than that it's really all about the penis. The fuzzy twins are just along for the ride." Alan: "By the way, it is MUCH more pleasurable getting head with my cock and balls shaved. MUCH more enjoyable for my woman, too." Eden: "Just hold it, keep it warm and snuggled while you work the shaft, but don't squeeze or rub, just fondle, please!" Dick: "I agree with Alan!" David: "I could tell you Sammy, but probably easier if I showed you... just sayin." Engels: "A sign that a guy does not like you playing with his balls is a twitch; you will feel them tense up, we're afraid you might go too rough on our balls. Personally, it's not for me." Jenard: "I think the sack area is neglected. It's one of the best erogenous zones! When the woman is on top facing the man, she ought to try reaching around behind her and fondle or lightly touch in a scratch-like motion the scrotum and to apply light massaging pressure on that area between the sack and anal region. That way, she can gage from the look on the guy's face how much he enjoys it! When giving fellatio, it should be a two-handed act! One on the rod, and the other fondling and cupping the sac, again applying light pressure between that sack/anal area. Men are visual! Make sure he sees what you are doing, and if you can maintain eye contact with your partner it will make it even hotter. Being one of those males who is visually stimulated, I have to admit that I am one of those kissers who doesn't close my eyes! I want to remember EVERYTHING and to have that picture of that lovely creature I'm kissing burned into my hard drive." Eden: "See Sammy? It's fondling/cupping/keeping 'em warm." Scot: "Maybe a little graphic for Facebook? But, here goes... after you both cum, filling her up while she's riding on top, afterwards letting all the juices of the moment drain down your cock flooding your sack. She climbs off, and with her soft tongue and warm breath devours the creamy mess while gently stroking your cock hard again." Gil: "You want just straight dudes to answer? Or do you want my two cents?" Cullan: "Well, of course playing with them gently while blowing is obvious... even stroking the shaft with one hand while licking them or sucking them gently in her mouth. Also, while doing it doggy style, I really like when the girl reaches back and plays with my balls." Scottie: "Don't touch 'em, TY." Billy: "Licking underneath it feels good. No pain please." David: "One word. Knitting needles." Eden: "When it hurts I say, 'Be gentle with the giblets."" Jeff: "Nothing, and I usually don't say anything unless what she is doing hurts." Scott: "I find 'No stupid!' works well. Operant conditioning a la B.F. Skinner." Tony: "Well Sam, when I ever get to have sex, I'll let you know." Gary: "All I'm gonna say to any potential article readers is BEWARE of the anus and its surrounding area." Sammy (me): "Gil, I want your two cents! Everyone else, GREAT information!" Gil: "Well. My sack. LUV IT. And after I have cum, I like having my taint serviced. Feels fagtastic. Like I have lips. Good gawd! I'VE SAID TOO MUCH." So here's the take away, girls: Hold them but don't squeeze them, compliment them but ignore them, be gentle but scratch them, suck but don't suck them, fondle but don't rub them -- and in some cases don't even touch them. And then there's the anus, beware of it, but apply slight pressure to it. Still confused? Yeah... me, too. Time to practice! To see more of Sam and The Single Life visit TheSingleLifeRadioShow.com To hear more of Sam and The Single Life visit TheSingleLife.hottalkla.com Follow Sam and The Single Life on Twitter.com/TheSingleLife Friend Sam on Facebook. How (& How NOT) to Fondle His Balls -- the Art of Testicle Play - Los Angeles Sex, LA After Dark.  

5 Things You Need To Know About Vibrators

  Some are called rabbits. Others? Elephants. There are plenty of words to describe the battery-powered pleasure centers that are tucked in bedside drawers everywhere, but they're best known by one word: vibrators. Every woman should have a vibrator handy, but sadly such is not the case. Perhaps it's a lack of knowledge about the power—literally and figuratively—of these sex toys. To catch everyone up to speed, we've assembled five things that every woman needs to know about her should-be best friend. 1. Vibrators are good for you. Sure, they help you orgasm without requiring the pesky presence of a male, but "good for you" also relates to health. Studies have shown that women who use vibrators are more likely to have had their annual gynecological exam than women who don't use them. So, essentially, as you're giving yourself the gift of clitoral stimulation, you're also more mindful of your vaginal health. That's a win-win in our book. 2. Dudes don't hate them. Contrary to popular belief, vibrators don't intimidate men. Maybe not every guy will be showering his girlfriend with gift-wrapped Pink Elephants, but studies show that overall men are A-OK with women using vibrators. In fact, many agree they are a healthy part of a woman's sex life. 3. You've got to believe! Having confidence in the power of your battery-powered friend can do wonders. In one research study, women who had positive beliefs regarding their vibrators—and had used them within the previous 30 days—reported higher levels of sexual satisfaction. That means more arousal, lubrication and better orgasms. 4. They can get dirty. No, we aren't talking the kinky kind of dirty; we're talking the "need to be cleaned" kind. Think about where that vibrator has been and then think about the last time you gave it a good wipe down. Sorry if we're grossing you out, it's just the truth, ladies. There is such a thing as sex toy cleaner, but for those of us not looking for high-end help, soap will do just fine. In general, just wet a cloth with warm, soapy water and wipe off your toy (just avoid the battery compartment and control area). 5. They have a shelf life. A nice, expensive vibrator will last you a good, long while—but not forever. The cheaper ones will last for about one year if used semi regularly. And, if a vibe is made with a jelly or rubber, it absolutely must be tossed after one year, no matter how much it cost. Such materials harbor bacteria so keeping them longer than a year is bad news for lady parts. The good news is that more high-end vibrators often come with warranties, so if something breaks (perhaps from overuse?) replacement is possible.   5 Things You Need To Know About Vibrators | YourTango.